Red Flags and Green Flags

Trust your instincts—and also know what to look for.

Red Flags

Communication Red Flags

• Pushing past stated boundaries
• Dismissing your concerns
• Love-bombing or rushing intimacy
• Getting angry at "no"
• Refusing to discuss safety
• "You don't need a safe word with me"

Behavioral Red Flags

• Isolating you from others
• Speaking badly about all exes
• Inconsistent stories
• Pressure to "prove" yourself
• Ignoring aftercare needs
• Public play before discussing privately

Green Flags

Communication Green Flags

• Respects "no" immediately and gracefully
• Asks questions and listens
• Shares their own boundaries
• Comfortable with negotiation
• Talks about safety proactively
• Checks in regularly

Behavioral Green Flags

• Respected in the community
• Introduces you to others
• Consistent words and actions
• Takes responsibility for mistakes
• Prioritizes aftercare
• Encourages your connections with others