Negotiation Before Play

Good scenes start long before they begin.

The Negotiation Framework

1. Desires & Goals

• What does each person want from this experience?
• What would make it fulfilling?
• What energy or dynamic are you seeking?

2. Limits & Boundaries

• Hard limits (absolute no's)
• Soft limits (maybes with conditions)
• Physical limitations or health considerations

3. Safety Measures

• Safe words/signals
• Physical safety equipment
• Emergency plans
• Aftercare arrangements

4. Practical Matters

• Timing and duration
• Location and privacy
• Props or equipment needed
• Who brings what

Sample Questions

Try asking:

• "What would make this amazing for you?"
• "What are your hard limits?"
• "What should I watch for to know you're enjoying this?"
• "What do you need for aftercare?"
• "Is there anything else I should know?"